Sex: Men in Today's Sexual World
As you are probably noticing, there is a theme in this portion of our journey that
keeps highlighting the constant barrage of sexual images around us each and every day.
Even the sports we watch are full of sexual images: the cheerleaders, commercials, and so
on. The images we are bombarded with have an effect on our lives and the way we think.
Who are you going to be as a sexual man? Or better yet, who will you allow to
determine what kind of sexual man you are going to be? Let’s consider the boundaries we
set and the covenants we make.
Boundaries Begin with Our Eyes
“But I tell you that anyone that looks at a woman lustfully
has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” - Matthew 5:28 (NIV)
As we covered in the previous session, it is not so much the look that matters, but it is what
we are going to do with the thoughts that are behind the look. We must be aware of where
our eyes go, what they embrace, and the paths we choose in these three areas.
- Internet – There has to be strong boundaries on the Internet. Filters are great. It is not that we do not trust ourselves, but that we cannot trust ourselves. In a moment of weakness
or temptation we must have the boundaries in place that will keep us from slipping
- Fantasy life – Our sex drive is not meant to be used in the fantasy realm. Fantasy must
be fueled. We do not know what the lives of the women who appear on the screen or
photograph are like, and we are not to reduce them to an object.
- Outlets – No real gentlemen go to “gentlemen’s clubs.” Social scenes that promote
promiscuity are not good ways for a man to let off steam. You must discover what is true
about yourself, and develop other forms of recreation that do not involve the debasing of
yourself or the objectifying of women.
As we can set boundaries for ourselves, we also can make covenants with ourselves.
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”
Job 31:1 (NIV)
This is easier said than done. There is only one woman that gets that kind of attention from
you, and that is your wife.
Q: What does this verse mean to you and how can you begin to make a covenant with your
We as Christian men are in covenant with the Lord to live in purity, to live for Christ and to
live for our families.
Q: What does the above statement mean to you?
"Timothy, guard what has been entrusted to your care. Turn away from godless chatter and the opposing ideas of what is falsely called knowledge," - 1 Timothy 6:20 (NIV)
We have a responsibility to guard the gifts God has given us. Among these are our sexuality,
relationships, family, and ministry, among others. We have a responsibility to our own
purity and holiness unto the Lord.
Make a list of what the Lord has entrusted to your care.
Q: What are you doing with what God has given you and what changes do you need to