Your Will, Your Choice
We are all defined by the choices we make. There are many options that will seek our attention and demand our time every day. We have the choice to embrace these options
and choose whether or not they will become a part of our thoughts and actions. Both God
and the Devil present options to us. We choose the option we want.
“Your character is defined by the nature of your actions and attitudes.”
– Dr. Richard Dobbins (Your Will and Your Choice)
""When tempted, no one should say, ‘God is tempting me.’ For God cannot be
tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when
they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire
has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it’s full grown, gives birth to
death." - James 1:13-15 (NKJV)
The desire is already in you. This in itself is not a bad thing. Men are bombarded with all
sorts of visual stimulus throughout each day, and they will feed the inner-man and the
desires. We need to determine where we are going to allow these desires to lead us as men.
Identify What You Desire (Start Recognizing)
Make two lists of the visual stimulants (e.g. billboards, magazines at the checkout counter)
or other things that you face every day. Know that what is being fed will grow and dominate
the other desires you have. This is for us to recognize what we are feeding ourselves and
Make your own list here are some examples
- Reading good books:
- Photos of your family (wives, children)
- Pornographic images or videos
- Non pornographic but still sexual images or videos
“It’s easier to stop a train before it gets going.” – Coach Harris
“For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The
weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary,
they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and
every pretention that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take
captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” - 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 (NKJV)
Q: What weapons have you already been armed with to “take captive” your thoughts?
In order to take your thoughts captive, STOP for a moment when these urges arise and
begin to ask yourself some questions:
What’s going on inside of me? Why?
Am I Happy? Sad? Lonely? Tired? Angry? Hungry?
What am I feeling? Why?
What are my surroundings? Am I in a good place?
What is it I am trying to escape?
Often, the sexual outlet of pornography has little to do with sex. It has to do with an
emotional hurt that needs to be healed. To change means to create a new way of walking,
and a new path that needs to be walked on.
Q: What can you do in order to act on the good desires?
Q: How will you change the fleshly desires?
Q: How will you begin to feed what is good?
Q: What are some good “outlets” that you can begin using (e.g. sports, hobbies, activities)
that will help you in changing your life?