The Power of Anger and Forgiveness
Anger is the one size fits all emotion. It produces energy and strength, and can
make people feel invincible. Anger is a great cover or mask for other emotions.
“If you practice converting all of the uncomfortable feelings into anger long
enough, you will hardly notice that you have other feelings.” – Dave Morgan
Q: Are you an angry person?
The defense modes of anger are flight, fight, or freeze. None of these accomplish anything
positive. Anger is not a problem-solving or relational tool.
Q: Have you given anger control in any area of your life? Where?
“Anger is high octane fuel. It will make you go fast, but it’s
a lousy steering wheel.” – Dave Morgan
In many instances, men who have not dealt with their anger and hurts of the past often
resort to pornography and other vices to medicate, or ease their pain. Their anger becomes
the steering wheel that takes them to places they should not be, but their need for selfmedication keeps them there.
People are often angry at themselves for their own actions and where those actions have led
Q: Are you angry at yourself? If so, why?
Forgiveness restores the balance of power when someone has offended or hurt you. Forgiveness creates an environment where healing can begin. We can forgive, if we will
forgive. It’s a choice.
“Forgiveness is a conscious, deliberate act of the will that delivers the forgiven from the guilt and the shame and delivers the forgiver from anger and pain.”
– Dr. Richard Dobbins (Forgiveness)
Q: How did you relate to the story of the rocks?
Forgiveness is a powerful tool for healing and living successfully. The two main points from
this portion on forgiveness are:
Q: Do you still need to forgive yourself and others?
Q: Who are some of the people in your life you know you need to forgive?
- Forgive yourself.
- Forgive others.
Forgiveness is very powerful, and liberating. Most often it takes time. I want to
encourage you to meet with a trusted friend, pastor, or counselor and begin the
process of forgiving today