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Day 14 - Bonds, Boundaries, and Bondage

A study of each, and how they relate to your journey.


Workbook day 14 (PDF content)

Day 14
Guilt And Shame
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According to Dictionary.com Bond means: a uniting cord, link or tie.
According to Dictionary.com Boundary means: a line that makes limits of an area or the limit of a subject or sphere of activity
According to Dictionary.com Bondage means: a slave to a destructive force.

Bonds are creative and good, boundaries are necessary, and bondage is destructive. God made a place in every one of us that only He can fill. No one or nothing else can fill it.


“The true treasures of your life are wrapped up in the people you love and the people who love you.” – Dr. Richard Dobbins (Bonds and Boundaries in Your Marriage)
Bonds

A bond units one with another. Examine with whom you are united.

Q: Are the relationships you are examining valuable? Are you pouring value into them? Are they healthy or destructive?

Q: How are the people in your relationships influencing you?

Boundaries

We will naturally protect what is valuable to us. We control who and what we allow into our homes. If you will keep your relationship with God healthy, He will help you keep your relationship with your spouse healthy. The closer we get to God, the closer He helps us get with each other.



“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” - Matthew 6:33 (ESV)

Single people can certainly build healthy relationships with neighbors, friends, co-workers, or other single people. Those relationships can become a source of security, providing someone they can call when they need comfort and help.

Examine the boundaries you have.

“Much frustration is caused by attempting to control what we can’t while neglecting to control what we can.” – Dr. Richard Dobbins (Bonds and Boundaries in Your Marriage)
Q: Are you in control of what you are allowing in your heart, mind, and home?

Q: Are you entertaining things (from movies or the internet) that are causing you to fantasize? Are you fantasizing about these women you are seeing? If so, what are your action steps to correct this behavior?

We are created for intimacy, but fantasy will hinder intimacy in our relationships with the Lord and with our wives.