Lust Vs. Maturity As Men
How do we deal with lust in a mature way? Every man has been exposed and
slightly molded by the sexual “standards” that have been set by TV, movies, soap operas,
and magazines. Every man wants to know if they “measure up.”
Q: What does this mean to you?
Sex is not designed to be just purely physical. We are all looking for good, loving
relationships and connections with our spouses. Having casual sex leaves men truly empty.
Lust is defined as: “Intense sexual desire or appetite” (Dictionary.com). This sexual drive
is created within men. God gave sexual desire. It really is a gift from God, and this gift is
designed to breed intimacy and form a strong bond with our spouse in marriage. There is
so much sexual stimulation presented to men on a daily basis. You must realize that the
Devil wants to corrupt and contaminate your sexual passions to prevent true intimacy with
your spouse and with God.
Q: What are you doing with your sexual passion?
Q: Have you allowed your sexual desire to be misused and cause damage?
Maturity allows us to see ourselves and women as the incredible, complex beings that God
created. Men and women alike are priceless individuals who each have their own beautiful
heart and likeness to God.
Q: How would a mature man view a woman?
There are four areas in which men mature:
Q: Take a moment and reflect on how you are taking responsibility in each of the areas
mentioned above and briefly describe areas where you need to mature regarding your
thoughts, attitudes about women and sex, desires that happen daily, and subsequent
- Self-Control – Men are not animals.
- Selflessness – Sex is never to be selfish. Sex is not to be for the short-term.
- Responsibility – We are responsible for our own thoughts, feelings, attitudes,
desires, and actions.
- Commitment – Sex is designed for the long-term within marriage.
“Following God is never about religion but relationship.” – Steve Beason
Understand the desires you have and how they are being fed. Take responsibility and make
changes in the areas of your life that need the change.
Q: How are you developing your personal maturity in these areas?